Do You Feel Lifeless at Work?
If you answered Yes to any of these questions, then I invite you to get curious: Why do you feel this way?
- Do you wake up on Sunday and notice you’re already dreading Monday because you can't bear to fake it anymore?
- Do you slump at your desk and count the hours until you can get the heck outta there and start feeling like yourself again?
- Do you feel just plain bored and tired when you’re work?
Why am I asking if you feel lifeless at work?
For a couple of reasons:
1) I am very disturbed by the pain that comes with feeling lifeless, bored, frustrated, and miserable at work. I know how it feels. It sucks. In my former life and career as an attorney, I felt totally lifeless. This is how it looked for me:
an actual photo I took when I felt lifeless at work
When I felt lifeless at work, I felt dead inside. I had no energy. I felt hopeless. My inner voice kept saying, “WHY are you doing this?!” I felt like I wanted to bang my head against a wall. Feeling lifeless at work is a vicious circle. The more I felt drained by my work, the less I knew what to do about it. Feeling lifeless and stuck is no way to live. 2) Feeling lifeless at work is a problem. It affects how you feel for 8, 10, 12 hours of your day. It affects your performance at your job. It affects your personal life – what happens outside of work and your relationships. It affects your long-term happiness and fulfillment. I know I can help you solve this problem: I specialize in helping people who feel lifeless at work to find their authentic direction and align their personal and professional passions with confidence and choice. Why do I help people who feel lifeless at work? I believe:
- You don't have to feel lifeless at work!
- Your experience at work is important. You spend a significant portion of your day – and your life – at work.
- Each person has something to offer. There is something that you are uniquely suited for and would love to do. If you are connected to this part of yourself, you will feel happier and more fulfilled.
- There’s a reason you work. You have to work, or you choose to work. Either way, there’s a reason you show up.
- If your reason for showing up is aligned with what is important to you, you will experience more satisfaction, confidence and success at work.
- Humans have a basic need to make a contribution to others and to our world. One of the most common frustrations I hear is: “I feel like what I do doesn’t matter.”
- Your work is an opportunity. You have a choice about the work that you do, the job do, the career you have. You can choose how you spend your time, energy, brain-power and heart-power at work.
Based on my experience, training, and learned insights, I have developed tools and strategies to help you shift perspectives toward feeling happier & more alive at work. I help you to take conscious action to create a more meaningful & fulfilling experience of your work. I’m passionate about helping you transform how you experience of your work. It took me years to transform my work – I can help you do it much faster and with more ease.
There is More Than One Solution
I want to be clear about something from the get-go: I am not advocating that you have to quit your job because you feel lifeless. Sure, that’s one way to address the situation. That’s the path I took – with very good reason after much soul-searching and contemplation. It may be the right choice for you, but it doesn’t have to be your path.
In fact, I believe that there are many ways to find your authentic direction and to pursue it.
I believe there are many ways to align your personal and professional passions to change the circumstances of your job, and/or shift your experience of the job that you have right now.
There’s a quote that says:
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
I’m here to tell you: If you feel lifeless at work, you can choose to do something different. That choice to do something different will begin to create different results!
That’s exactly what I do. I help you to:
Do you feel lifeless at work? What do you want to do about it? What life are you fighting for?Yours in wildness~~
- Know yourself better.
- Empower yourself to make changes that you want to make but don’t know how to make right now.
- Identify and get clear on new possibilities.
- Remove inner blocks that hold you back.
- Pursue a new course of action.
- Realize that you are powerful, feel confident, and know that you can do it.
Next time: Why Your Reasons For Work Matter
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This past week my soul was filled. I was myself. I was seen, I was heard. I felt alive. I’ve written about Double Life Syndrome here and here. I know the feeling of being disconnected from my true self and living a life that did not fit who I really am. It was a terrible feeling, and terribly draining. To be someone other than me is just plain tiring. I don’t want to do it. So I chose not to do it anymore in my career. I don’t want you to have to do it either. Each of us deserves to know ourselves and to be ourselves. Another layer of this knowing is that we also deserve to be seen by others for who we truly are. I believe that doing so is a big part of creating world that is loving and fully alive. That’s what I’m all about – creating a world that is loving and fully alive. By exploring our truths, by getting connected with them, and by sharing them with others, we can be known for who we truly are. Those connections within ourselves get stronger, and the connections with our fellow humans can grow stronger and more loving. Because they are based on something true and real. And that is an amazing thing. This week, I was seen. I was heard. It doesn’t happen every day, and that’s okay. But when it does happen, when my soul is filled, I feel so whole and big and loved. This is what I want for you as well. Yours in wildness~~ Lisa
What Life Are You Fighting For?
two sides of a line
Last week I wrote about Double Life Syndrome and how feeling like you're living two lives is an indicator that something bigger is going on in your life.
A quick recap:
Your Passionate Life is the part of you that is really ALIVE. You are juiced up doing what is fun and meaningful to you. This part of you loves to create, contribute and make a difference. You know you’re living your passionate life when you lose track of time doing something you love. You know you’re living your passionate life when you feel happy, engaged, and energized. You just feel so. damn. good.
Your Day Job Life is driven by a sense of obligation, endless to-do’s, boredom, and frustration. You know that you're living the Day Job life when you call your job/career just that, a day job. You know you’re living this part of your life whenever you believe that you don’t have any choice but to continue doing it (even though you know you’d be happier doing something else).
If you’re living with Double Life Syndrome, then I suggest that your Passionate Life is calling you forth. The freedom, courage, and enthusiasm inside you will not stay quiet. It will not be forgotten. In fact, your wild heart demands to be heard!
The choices that you make each day support one of these two lives. Your choices affect where you direct your energy, your time, your money, and other resources. Your choices affect which part of your life thrives. Your choices affect how you experience your life.
Which raises the question: “What life are you fighting for?”
This question came up for me today as I was preparing for my week-long personal retreat. As part of the retreat, I’m spending time to go back through notebooks I’ve filled with ideas, thoughts, plans, journaling and who knows what else for the last 4-5 years. I know that my notebooks are a treasure trove of inspiration, insights and business ideas, which is why I am excited to delve into them and harvest these gems. I also know that my notebooks are the keepers of difficult emotions, frustrations, and lots and lots of questioning that accompanied the life changes that I’ve been creating during the last few years.
As I contemplated what I want from this personal retreat and needing to go back and read my writing, I wrote: I’m a little wary about going back and reading that old stuff. It felt like I was fighting for my life back then.
And I was. I was fighting for my passionate life. For years I had let my passionate part of me get so weak that it felt like it was down to only a dimly burning ember. I had to fight to keep it alive. Although I wasn’t on the brink of literal death, without my passionate life I was hurting and in bad shape. Check it out:
an actual photo I took while living my Day Job Life -- I'm sure you can tell how I felt
Double Life Syndrome: Are You Living Two Lives?
wildness in nature
Take a moment . . . How many of these statements are true for you?
1. I feel like have to be one person while I’m at work and I’m a completely different person after 5 pm.
2. I feel like I am trying to fit some kind of mold but secretly know that I could never fit into a mold at all!
3. I feel as though I can’t express my true self at work, with my friends, or in my my relationships. My true self typically stays hidden inside.
4. I wish I could do the things I love to do in my “free time” much more often, and maybe even make a living from them.
5. I’ve spent hours, days, months, years thinking about what I really want to do, but I’m not sure how I could make it happen in “real life.”
If you answered YES to 2 or more of these questions, you may experience what I fondly refer to as Double Life Syndrome!
Double Life Syndrome isn’t about lying, cheating on your partner, or having a second family somewhere. It isn’t about being a bad person or deliberately misleading anyone.
It is about something bigger that is going on in your life.
Double Life Syndrome is an indication that you’re unwilling to compromise, that you won’t live your life by the old rulebook, and that you refuse to suffer in silence.
Double Life Syndrome is a signal that your wild heart – the innate freedom, courage, and enthusiasm that exists within you and makes you uniquely you – is alive and well. It is your heart telling you that it wants something, that it needs something, and that it’s not going to stay quiet just because you have obligations to fulfill.